People

There is a difference between a friend and a friend of friend i realised that today….

Well I don't mean a person who you know just because of a common friend and you only have a small talk in the name of conversation once in your life…

I am talking about a person who you meet every day but you never realised that it was only during another person, a friend is present. you talk to him even when the common friend is not around but that is never a conversation you think it is a conversation but then it in reality is just a small talk..

When you are talking to some one and you have something to say but you cant there are two possibilities…

one.. you don't trust that person secondly you think that the other person can not feel what you feel he cannot think in that situation in which you were..

most of the time it is the mixture of both ..

after talking to a person for some time you may realise that actually the other person also thinks in the same way and hence you become comfortable in at least starting a conversation…

yes you were not having a conversation till now you were just talking.. there is a difference between having a conversation and talking….

conversation will always have a meaning but talking is just talking

talking is not something which you remember but a conversation is something which you remember..

that's the reason women remember thing and men don't because mostly women are having a conversation where as men are just talking….

well i am diverted from what my original point was but hey that was a nice thought!!

There are many different type of people i find around me..

1 there are some which are the peoples people… most of the other people know about them they open up to people easily..

2 the introvert types you never know what is going on in their funny little brains.. if you try to penetrate the wall they generally get angry or feel help less this is their defence mechanism 

but if they open up to you … which is like rarely possible.. then you are really lucky because most probably you are getting to know this person better than any one and believe me that is nothing like anything…

Then there are the 3rd ones….

these are the interesting creatures…. they are a very wonderful blend of both the categories mentioned above …

they are these bubbly/ social/ angry/funny/…. people from outside but  beneath a thousand layers and walls of protection there lies a baby which is constantly living in a fear.. fear that if a person finds out about him they might judge him..

most of us belong to the third category we pretend to be something which we are not just so that we can fit in just so that people don't judge us….

well the degree of protection or the “number of layers” is different for different people..

the interesting part about these people or if i may the interesting thing about us is that if you get us to our comfort level the layers start to disappear..

people use many ways to get to this comfort level.. the most efficient one is numbing your brain and hence we have drinking buddies.. my favourite one is by having the “talk”.. the one which changes itself to a conversation…. 

now as it is already established that most of us lie in the third category the “interesting ones”so  finally coming back to the original thing… i found out today….

there is a difference between a friend and a friend of a friend…

If you talk to a friend of friend and get into his comfort zone you might actually be able to penetrate through the walls and finally get to the shy kid who will actually have a meaningful conversation with you but then he will feel insecure and later on he will be more confused he already knows that you understand but the trust is gone.. he starts questioning that if the other person will understand but it is only for him to be comfortable because the answer to the question that he will give will always be no regardless of weather the person was able to understand or not…

he will be frustrated and all around you…

But if you talk to a friend you will realise that between all those protective walls there is a small gate and your friend has already given you the key to the shy kid.. you are already in the comfort level and so you have the* conversation..